Relationship Advice: 5 Things You Should NEVER Say to a Woman

ARTICLE 4 THE MAN!!

Interested in a life of constant arguing,
withering stares,
and no intimacy?

Just keep using these phrases

By: Sarah Miller, Photographs by: Kate Swan (men's health)

KEY#SPEAK NO EVIL
Women freak out. Often at you.

Often for no particcular reason.



You say something that you consider totally innocuous, or even downright nice, only to find that you've offended, enraged, or annoyed us. (woman)



Your first problem--being attracted to women,
*not a big prob if u are not so attractive!*

Warning:

Some of these absolute no-no words and phrases seem so incredibly harmless,

you may think we're kidding. We're-woman not.

*we take it seriously*



Forbidden Phrase #1: "Relax."

It might seem logical to you to tell a woman who's freaking out to relax.

And IF "logical" ="stupidest idea ever,"

>> you'd be correct.

PS: Understand, a woman screaming and carrying on in anger or frustration or panic thinks that her response is 100 percent appropriate.

So when you tell her to relax,

you're implying that your response--

>>i.e., nothing--is correct. You're denying that there's a reason to be upset.

>> You're telling her she's crazy.

ps: Women may sometimes feel crazy and joke about it,

but anything smacking of accusations of being crazy

will be far from soothing.
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"I'm just as upset about this as you are.

Let's deal with it together."

>>This way she knows you're totally sympathetic.

This should help her to...oh, God...relax.

*it takes 2 hand to clap*

Forbidden Phrase #2: "I love you." (During a fight)


In movies, "I love you" is usually employed by men during I-love-you–appropriate situations--lovemaking, walks on the beach, airport reunions.

In real life, a woman hears "I love you" most often at that point in a fight when she desperately wants to get to the heart of the issue, and when you desperately want to stop this nonsense and watch Alias--which you don't normally even watch.


Excuse me!!(MEN)

>>do you really believe that

merely stating the powerful existence of your love

is going to make everything okay?

*Because it's not *



Say . . .



1. "[Insert detailed explanation of what you did and why you did it.]"



2. "It won't happen again."



3. "I love you." (It's okay at the end of the apology, just not at the beginning.)



Forbidden Phrase #3: "It's up to you."

(A.K.A. "Whatever you want to do is fine with me.")


Relationships are full of decisions.

You (men)decide where to eat, where to go on vacation, where to send your child to preschool.

Most men wouldn't dream of looking at their wife or girlfriend and saying,

"You know what? I just don't care."

They would, however, say, "It's up to you."

And find themselves in a world of hurt they never saw coming.



Men think of decision-making as work without pay.

For women, it's like window-shopping for life's possibilities, and

we want you to help us shop.

So when you say,

men:"It's up to you,"

woman>> we feel abandoned.*sob sob* "(



Say . . . "I could definitely do A or B, but I'm not crazy about C.

What are you thinking?"

This shows you're

1. listening,

2.suggests you care,

3.gets you out of deciding.



Forbidden Phrase #4: "You knew I was this way when u chose to be with me!"


woman:

Well, the truth is that we didn't.

Or we knew deep down, but we were so busy enjoying our fantasy of you that we chose to ignore what was really there.

It's not your fault.

It's just that when we were little,

we spent so much time daydreaming about having the perfect life.

Now that we're actually in grown-up life, we can't turn off our daydreaming switch.



Telling a woman, "You knew I was this way when you knew me"

is like saying the way your life is right now is the way it's going to be forever and ever.

And that may well be true--in many wonderful and not-so-wonderful ways. But if she were to accept that, a little part of her would die.



wat should MEN SAYS:

Say . . . "It frustrates me, too--and I'm working on it."

*It's a lie. That's okay. *

MEN NEVER SPEAK THE TRUTH ANYWAY



Forbidden Phrase #5: (Nothing)


At times, you may be afraid of saying the wrong thing.

You may think, If I just keep my mouth shut, I'll be okay.

Imagine yourself, head hanging, going to retrieve the ball yourself and,

once again, throwing it to no one.

That's how we feel when you don't talk to us. (WOMAN)



MEN Say . . . Anything. !!!!!!

Throw the ball back.

Throw it badly.

Even risk throwing a wild pitch and

letting her take an extra base.

But keep your head in the game. ^^

*GOOD LUCK MAN* ^_^

Now is my turn to say:

I've found that when life is hardest, the best thing I can do is

take my need to >>Jesus.

*my source of help in times of need*

In the times when I fall before Him in prayer, He sustains and strengthens me ... but in the times that

I try to handle things in my own strength,

I am weak and ineffective.

*with Christ in the vessel-me i can smile @ the storm*

Desperate times call for a desperate faith. As Christians, we have faith in a person - God.

Faith in and of itself is meaningless, but faith in an all-seeing, all-knowing, all-powerful God means everything ... because He is the same yesterday, today, and forever.

Faith is the core of our lives. It is essential to pleasing God.

He wants us to trust Him in every trial and through every trouble.

"And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him."

(Hebrews 11:6, NIV)

Are you desperate for a miracle today?

Is the declining economy, the burden of debt, or soaring unemployment rate affecting you or someone you love?

Perhaps you bear the pain of a broken marriage, broken dreams, or a broken body.

If you are desperate for healing, help, and hope, ask the Lord to increase your faith today, and make a determined choice to trust Him.

...........................................................

*wat to do when you dun noe wat to do..*

no worries.. ^^

God will send his words to the people he loves-you!

For God so love the world that he gave his onli begotten son that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have everlasting life.

Let's Pray (if u Believe that prayer works*True fact: PRAYER WORKS*)

Faith is only an act of what you decide to believe in!

Heavenly Father, You are a mighty God, and I'm in need of Your power in my life. I beg You to move! Please fan the flame of my faith today. I trust that You are in control and ask that You would sustain and strengthen me to face every challenge.
In Jesus' Name I pray, Amen.

...................................................................

Desmond Ong-- says:
"is just dun be too trustful with strangers or so called friends u just got to know "

squished says:
"let go and stop trying to do something about ur love life "



wong says:"不要太容易被男生得到.不然他不会珍惜的囖 "

If it within my control..however.. Praise God it isn't within my control cos God can control it better!^_^ says:


if ya think too fast perhap yup u shld step back and think again.

nevertheless.. dun rush through just like that.. at the same time continue with your daily stuffs accomplished what u wanna to accomplished.. do not stop just be focus.

dun let this thing affect u too much actually


i says:*well.. i liked to have many friends 4 company but
life companion- i onli need one..**

yea that what i believe God wanna for all of us definitely I too believe that God wanna to bless you with a LIFE partner! and since it for life it gonna to be a big thing which can't be base on emo alone. if it gonna be life and God given it will be given and given in the best way. Pray for peace of mind and in ya heart for things like that.

no one can make a decision for u

only u in ur heart.
*after much thoughts*

i says:

"my mind knows (decide) wat i should do but i let my heart dictates(lead) the way! "

i'm aware that my heart(shaped by Him) is in the hands of my God
* my heart is Not in control & loving it*
and all the while i know wat kind of guy i want*not gonna compromise on that*

>>hint hint: i'm onli attracted to guy who is spiritual, mature,

Godly = God Given ! ^_^

*i dun appreciate too much attention from the rest*

*i onli need the right attention from the right guy*

though i longed to wanna be cherish by a guy

BUT

my requirements *stated*

still stays..

i believe my God have already arranged that

Someone- embraced same values and teachings flowing in the same spirit and willing to pursue God given dreams & visions ..

The end of Asia Conference 08 is just the beginning of Asia's revival~! says:


there is season for everything

include the season to show the vibrant and excited side and the season to

show the quiet side.. no worries im not saying u i just say a a generalso that require wisdom~~~ lol

Desmond Ong-- says:"by 3 methods we may learn wisdom ,

1st by reflection, which is noblest ,

2nd by experience which is the bitterest,

3rd is thru imitaion which is easiest

i says:

its not about just dating but

to be effective to step into the ministry
*seek ye ist His kingdom*

i says:

if u know mi..
i can't keep anything to myself..
lol.hahah..

that's me lo..
i happy
sad
angry
joyful..:
lts all written

The end of Asia Conference 08 is just the beginning of Asia's revival~! says:
but of cos.. there is season for everything

wat do i say??

To the ONE>>*Joshua 1:1*

* is this the season or the next?*

( o " "O)

i believe one can be who u are without topple the balance.
everyone know u
and like u as who u are. "

lol outspoken, friendly, excited, vibrant have always been will always be CHC culture! that for sure!

>>To: The end of Asia Conference 08 is just the beginning of Asia's revival~!

>by the way thank God 4 your words of encouragement and lifting me up with ur words of wisdom

>anyway thank man.. its a good fellowship on the msn.


>^_^ thanks for intro me to this gesture *so cute* make my day!! Hee



>>*ok i have said all that i wanna say and i believe
my words are crystal clear!!*

4 my love life" ^_^

~Today's Truth~
Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."
Philippians 4:4-7 (NIV)


Good things don't come easy..
Easy things don't come good!!
*patience is a virtue*

my heart says:

i dun wanna regrets in my life and that watever i do i must know the purpose why am i going ahead with it. if it glorifies God then i see no reasons in pursueing a relationship...

i believe that when God wanna release you into a ministry..

he wanna give you a helper to support you and protect you as well. **

*Ginna is holiding on to the baton dearly 4 the one*

squished says:

squished says:
yeah, thats the problem with having too many guy friends

squished says:
thats why i said. let god handle it, let it go and stop trying to do something about ur love life

squished say:
no matter wat will be will be

squished says:
its only a matter of time

jolin ginna says:
i noe..

squished says:
then relax and be at peace la

jolin ginna says:
i mean do i make all the guy frens around me feel insecure??

squished says:
only those who are interested in u

jolin ginna says:
i am at peace.. and i m not rushing.. i'm leaving my life as it is..

squished says:
yup, tahts the way cos ur still young, treasure ur youth

jolin ginna says:
ya.. actually i set a goal to have a bf on 24 th bday.. so this year.. i wanna concentrate on my career.. then i believe all would fall in place..
squished says:

enjoy loife, enjoy the chase

jolin ginna says:
my feeling's complicated* ><

squished says:
lol, its the same reason why im not really bothering about women and realtionships

squished says:
my life is complicated enough as it is

squished says:
dun wanna complicate it with feeeeeelings

jolin ginna says:
ya.. true.. hey u know wat..i think that your love would come after u get ur career..

jolin ginna says:
remember the pst tan sermon

1.God
2.job
3. ministry
4. love

*we dun try to mix the sequence ya*

squished says:
hmmmm, yeah


well, for now, its god, job

ok la, im not worried

jolin ginna says:
ialso thought that once i get my career then i would be bless with a guy.. then get into marridge.. ^^

squished says:
cos i know that god has something for me already, and that im just not ready yet
so he is preparing me for it =)
so im relaxing in his presence and im happy
jesus died so that i can be happy
jesus died single, so that i will not be single
jesus died materially poor, so that i can be rich

jolin ginna says:
i sunddenly rem that God wanna bless us with all these things and our job is to seek him ist.. then in the mist of it all these will fll in place rite??

squished says:
yup

jolin ginna says:
amen..

jolin ginna says:
its cool to agree with u..

squished says:
amen

squished says:
lol, its good that we are finally agreeing with each other lately

jolin ginna says:
when 2 or 3 agree in his name and it shall be done accordingly..

squished says:
not so exciting, but very refreshing

jolin ginna says:
ya lor..elevate our spirit ..^^

u know, its really nice not to be fighting lol

squished says:
maybe arguing all the time isn;t really that fun

squished says:
hahah

jolin ginna says:
yah yah.. hmmm.. ya.. but looking at it..

jolin ginna says:
life-bitter.. sweet.. sour.. *its fun*

jolin ginna says:
that's make life interesting..

squished says:
not to much though, too interesting becomes complicated

jolin ginna says:
like its boring to be happy all the time.. you wont tresure
the happy moment unless u tasted the bitterness..*like the tastebud*

squished says:
lolol
squished says:
ok ok, i gotta go now

wong says: "那你就选最好一个啦!"

if u really prepare to marry..then choose the best one and 拍拖两年就结婚.不要拖太久
对你没好处的..


jolin ginna says:
hmm.. well cos i also dun wanna make committed too fast lor..

wong says:
then what kind of boy u choose?

wong says:
clever girl..make more friends first b4 start

jolin ginna says:
i ald making tons of friends ya..

wong says:
如果要认识..一年在一起就可以先注册了..如果男的找很多借口..

那你就要担心了..

要重新考虑及选择

不要太容易被男生得到.不然他不会珍惜的囖

我29

wong says:
他小过你,你也接受呀

wong says:
说不定跟你拍两年...他觉得小,而且他还算帅的话.也许就找过呢.男人30一条龙啊..

jolin ginna says:
well this 22 he is reali sweet.. not reali matured yet so i'm holding on lor to my stand..

wong says:
恩..不过有些人22岁也很成熟的

jolin ginna says:
he's still a bit not yet grown up lo..

wong says:
如果他拍拖两年还不结婚..找很多理由的话.那不要让他等..如果他真心喜欢你,想保护你,爱护你.他会娶你先的

wong says:
如果只是想找甜甜蜜蜜的拍拖爱情..他很适合你
wong says:

哦..那你觉得他想娶你吗

一时冲动也不是好事

wong says:
22岁逼近是很不理智的年龄

jolin ginna says:
ya lor.. i dun wanna rush thru also..

jolin ginna says:
i thought so too..
wong says:

我有一个新加坡女同事..她哥就是太早结婚而离婚了

jolin ginna says:
but then he's very devoted to me so i'm very touched.. 4 all that he's done..

jolin ginna says:
oki. hhmmm.. to idea age to marry is like 26..

wong says:
你都知道的啦..男人的话,十个有九个不可以相信..还没有追到你的时候,对你非常好..百般献殷勤..但是一旦最到你..又不回家,又不理你啦

wong says:
因为他会受朋友影响,而且他会不甘心就那么结婚了,因为他还没玩够..

wong says:
女孩都容易被感动的


wong says:
那他还没追到你..肯定不会对你怎么样


jolin ginna says:
i thought so too..

jolin ginna says:
cos he noes got alot of guys liked mi and is after me..

十个男孩有九个男孩都介意自己老婆是处女..因为占为己有特强

jolin ginna says:
so if your wife is not virgin u will mind lo..

wong says:
我自己觉得会介意..
除非那些经常去玩的...他会不mind
我会介意..因为我不是那种随便的人

jolin ginna says:
but noe is 21st century ald

wong says:
我相信有真爱的

jolin ginna says:
where got mind this kinda thing

wong says:
哈哈~~我比较传统

jolin ginna says:
then gd 4 ur wife..^^

wong says:
因为不保证我的老婆与我结婚后出去玩..所以我会找一个大方得体,有分寸,有想法,聪明的老婆

jolin ginna says:
so is u dun mind that ur wife go out and have fun?

wong says:
我不介意她出去聚会或什么

wong says:
因为我爱她,我相信她
如果在一起的话..就要相信对方..因为我大方,也希望她大方
为什么我说要找有分寸的女孩囖
有想法的女孩..如果她会做出那些事..那老公肯定不会原谅她..她肯冒这个风险吗
做好自己很重要
不过男女生多少都会吃醋..只要不过份就没事啦
大家都是读书人

jolin ginna says:
wow.. then would you respect ur wife like not touch her till marridge?

wong says:
是的..
我绝对不会婚前性行为因为我要负责任..

jolin ginna says:
ok so wat u think about guys who have this kinda thought?

wong says:
万一我在拍拖死了.我也能让她有个完美的婚姻呀

jolin ginna says:
like those who yearns 4 intimacy>

wong says:
我觉得他不会看重,也不懂得尊重女孩

有些男的会说,你迟早都是我的人,现在跟结婚之后有什么差别呢
这种男的比较自私...他没有想到女的比较脆弱是用来疼爱,保护,关心的

jolin ginna says:
hmm.. wat do think bout guys who ask gf to have intimacy ?


wong says:
easy come easy go..我觉得不好囖..

wong sent 12/27/2008 8:44 PM:
如果是拖拖手还没关心..亲亲脸还好

wong says:
如果过分的亲热..女的很容易着火..然后被爱冲昏脑..其实后悔就来不及了.其实就有这样的男孩..所以女生才会遭殃

jolin ginna says:
ya i thought so

wong says:
哈哈~~男女拍拖的时候是认识对方的为人..而不是叫你发生关系或亲热什么的

wong says:
女孩是需要来保护..因为她们都比较没安全感

jolin ginna says:
then as a guy .. u have ur needs?
wat u do?

wong says:
可以打球啊,或者做别的事分散注意力

wong says:
如果真的想..那就自己自慰呀

wong says:
也是可以舒解

jolin ginna says:
ok.. honestly.. would u approach ur gal ?

wong says:
但有些人会找小姐或强奸女孩囖

wong says:
我有些朋友还被她男朋友霸王硬上弓..很气氛

wong says:
我觉得我不会..我自己搞定wong says:
不过如果男生有一次就有第二次的

wong says:
千万不要上当囖wong says:
我自己控制自己的呀

wong says:
我很多很多女性朋友..所以我清楚
拍拖就像钓鱼一样.要收放自如

wong says:
不要一直拉,或是一直放线..而且也不能一直付出而没有得到..如果你一直宠他..你会害了自己.
我的想法都是因为我敬佩我妈妈,觉得女人很伟大..

再加上在医院实习看到做母亲的把孩子生出来的那一幕..
我比较站在女生角度去想..女权主义吧

jolin ginna says:
wow.. amazing.. can't believe that i hear this from a guy..

wong says:
所以女孩子怎么错不能打呀

wong says:
我比较讲道理..也自我检讨..
我很开心
..jolin ginna says:
then i think u are reali matured.. and caring and won't force on the gal u liked.. its gd..

jolin ginna says:
wah .. i believe ur gal would be so fortunate to be with you!!

wong says:
恩
wong says:
还没找到我心目中的理想


我也是很多人追我..但我都没有考虑.要结婚才去拍拖吧
wong says:

你还想知道什么呢..是不是觉得我很偏激呢..难以接受喔

jolin ginna says:
hmmm.. actually i think 4 gal is that the more u dun want then the more gal would initiate the intimacy..

wong says:
我自己控制自己的呀

wong says:
我很多很多女性朋友..所以我清楚

jolin ginna says:
no ar.. im total agree with wat u think cos that's exactly wat my church taught mi..

jolin ginna says:
and hearing that from a guy lets me understand more.. *tks tks*

wong says:
拍拖就像钓鱼一样.要收放自如

wong says:

不要一直拉,或是一直放线..
而且也不能一直付出而没有得到..如果你一直宠他..你会害了自己

我的想法都是因为我敬佩我妈妈,觉得女人很伟大..再加上在医院实习看到做母亲的把孩子生出来的那一幕..我很开心..

我比较站在女生角度去想..女权主义吧

jolin ginna says:
wow.. *amazing*.. can't believe that i hear this from a guy..

wong says:
所以女孩子怎么错不能打呀

我比较讲道理..也自我检讨..

如果你选择女孩是这样..你一早就懂了..但你还是喜欢她..那就要去包容,去体谅,去迁就她

jolin ginna says:
hmmm..
jolin ginna says:
its been a nice chat with ya..
jolin ginna says:
then i think u are reali matured.. and caring and won't force on the gal u liked.. its gd..
jolin ginna says:
wah .. i believe ur gal would be so fortunate to be with you!!

wong says:
恩
还没找到我心目中的理想

我也是很多人追我..但我都没有考虑.要结婚才去拍拖吧
wong says:
是啊..现在在跟一个厦门聊天.她在MSIA读书
wong says:
不过她妈妈要她回家.她很伤心呀

jolin ginna says:
u liked her.. well u are like 29.. so its impt that u think about it..
jolin ginna says:
getting hitched!!

wong says:
我还没拍过拖的

wong says:
因为我宁缺勿烂..要就找最好一个,最有感觉的,最想保护关心的结婚

jolin ginna says:
so romantic lor..

wong says:
我真的有那么好么...哈哈~~

wong says:
我真的很多女性朋友..不过如果我老婆闷..我就全部介绍给她认识囖..做姐妹都行..哈哈


jolin ginna says:
oki sure i would wanna noe your wife..

wong says:
你想认识我老婆?
没有怎么认识..懊

jolin ginna says:
ya.. if u have want nezt time.. iwanna tell her that prob u are the most precious guy on earth..
and that she would sure be very fortunate!!

wong says:
呵谢谢

jolin ginna says:
and that i believe she wont wanna leave you ya..
and that i can see a very meaniful and happy marridge

jolin ginna says:
*romantic*

wong says:
:D

wong says:
我希望是不离不弃的

wong says:
由始至终的

jolin ginna says:
that's wat everyone hoped too..

wong says:

希望两个拍拖到80岁
wong says:
恩..所以我很有原则立场的

jolin ginna says:
hey u noe wat..

jolin ginna says:
i'm very touched by wat u just said
*how i wish the guy i love would also say the same thing to me too *

wong says:

不会吧

wong says:
其实你对人好,人家就会对你好的啦

jolin ginna says:
but i reali hope that my guy will say the same thing treat mi like the way u said


wong says:
i study medical b4

wong says:
所以读过心理学
wong says:
恩
wong says:
要回家了.

jolin ginna says:
reali..

wong says:
我妹煮好汤..我要回家吃饭啦
wong says:
饿啊

jolin ginna says:
cya!

wong says:
省钱,没办法

jolin ginna says:
take care.. msg mi ya..

wong says:
好的..


i'm so amazed by all the words thst he said..
and ur're such a nice guy ^^

i pray that God will bless you with the rite gal ya!
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*well.. i liked to have many friends but husband- i onli need one..

>>hint hint: i'm onli attracted to guy who is spiritual ..

therefore

*i dun need too much attention from the rest*

*i onli need the right attention from the right guy*

though i longed to wanna be cherish by a guy

BUT

my requirements *stated*

still stays..

i believe my God have already arranged that

someone- embrace same values and teachings as me ..

*waiting 4 the time factor*

To: the ONE>>*Joshua 1:1*

*pls dun keep me waiting*

( o " "O)

~Today's Truth~

Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."

Philippians 4:4-7 (NIV)

*Ginna is holiding on to the baton dearly*

Desmond says..

Desmond Ong-- says:
"by 3 methods we may learn wisdom , 1st by reflection, which is noblest , 2nd by experience which is the bitterest, 3rd is thru imitaion which is easiest

i trying to let u learn thru imitation

meaning telling u by experience

**dun go thru knock your head then u learn


Desmond Ong-- says:
is just dun be too trustful with strangers or so called friends u just got to know

He says: Decision= emo+heart+mind.

If it within my control..however.. Praise God it isn't within my control cos God can control it better!^_^ says:


woo.. rule by emo isn't too wise move. thou emo does play part of decision but shldn't be a big part wor.^_^

jolin ginna says:
i think any decision needs a time factor..

jolin ginna says:
so i'm still in charge though i noe i get emo easily.. lol

If it within my control..however.. Praise God it isn't within my control cos God can control it better!^_^ says:
hehe... gd gd~! so long u know where is ya souce Can le.

yea that what i believe God wanna for all of us definitely I too believe that God wanna to bless you with a LIFE partner! and since it for life it gonna to be a big thing which can't be base on emo alone. if it gonna be life and God given it will be given and given in the best way. Pray for peace of mind and in ya heart for things like that. no one can make a decision for u only u in ur heart.

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jolin ginna says:
ya.. i'm reali praying 4 that.. but i'm gonna decide so soon..

>>my life happiness leh..

jolin ginna says:
i mean i'm not gonna decide so sonn.. cos its all too fast ald..

>>can't afford to make the wrong move

If it within my control..however.. Praise God it isn't within my control cos God can control it better!^_^ says:

yup i know.. if ya think too fast perhap yup u shld step back and think again.

>>heart+ soul+ mind all using loh

If it within my control..however.. Praise God it isn't within my control cos God can control it better!^_^ says:

nevertheless.. dun rush through just like that.. at the same time continue with your daily stuffs accomplished what u wanna to accomplished.. do not stop just be focus.

>>*i dun like to rush thru relationship too..NOT my style.. but i flow with the heart*

If it within my control..however.. Praise God it isn't within my control cos God can control it better!^_^ says:

dun let this thing affect u too much actually

>>*my respond is also dependent on my circumstances*

jolin ginna says:
ya.. i'll take note.

jolin ginna says:
: )

If it within my control..however.. Praise God it isn't within my control cos God can control it better!^_^ says:
^_^

* tks 4 the words ya.. would bear it in my heart!!*

word of the day from crossword.com

**If you are single and long to be cherished by a man--God loves you and sees you as perfectly beautiful in Christ. Trust His plan. Hang on!

Each of us struggle through issues in life. you & I are not excluded from challenging circumstances. We're in the trenches with you. Let's make a commitment as girlfriends right now. Let's commit to struggling well! The best thing we can do is to turn to God. He said that when we seek Him that we will find Him. Spend a few moments in prayer right now. Worship the Lord for who He is and ask God to be strong in your weakness.

Good things don't come easy..

Easy things don't come good!!

*patient is a virtue*

nice songs>> http://www.myspace.com/gwensmithmusic



hehe.. Thanks For '08 and yeahhhh it '09!!! says:

cos everyone is standing at a particular angle looking at u so from the same angle we are saying the same thing.. so either i change another angle to view u then i will have a complete new points abt u or u turn/shift/rotate another angle and show us a different side of u~~~~
the longer i know a person the more i shldn't just stand at an angle and see him/her.
hehe..

hehe.. Thanks For '08 and yeahhhh it '09!!! says:
so no worries will come a day u will hear a different comment~~~ kaka..

jolin ginna says:
eh.. i onli request for something new.. and you reali spend lots of effort to say loads of stuff..

jolin ginna says:
hahaha

hehe.. Thanks For '08 and yeahhhh it '09!!! says:
kaka.. the start of something different

jolin ginna says:
that's very creative.. innovative.. *putting practice the words of pst*

hehe.. Thanks For '08 and yeahhhh it '09!!! says:
^_^

hehe.. Thanks For '08 and yeahhhh it '09!!! says:
take taht as a compliment~!

quite many girls surround him...
haha...
but he's those... u know, caring for every1 but has only his eyes for juz that 1 person... like tat lor.

GOD's yes is bigger den my yes!

well.. he has confessed to me..

so though my heart says yes but then my mind still holding on to the NO..

Alrite i have already spoken God that he must be rooted in
city harvest
embrace the culture, values..
must be Godly..
must be fun loving out going, like me..
must be able to build me up..
love me 4 who i am..
most importantly LOVE>>GOD!!

i believe that ALl things works 4 good 4 those who love Him..
so if its the one you strengthen the desire or else you take away the desire
"not my will but yours will be done"

today.. went to expo svc with amil,from iran..
then i came late therefoere didn't get to seat with him..

however on the train i saw my long lost SOT mates-Elim(ck zone) glad that we had each other 4 companion in hall 8.. great service ya..
after met up with amil went to the bookshop 4 a while and there was this dark coloured crystal cross design necklace that caught my eye*very pretty and was trying it on*..
so in love with it. cos it look great on me
(well a sweet person would look great on anything loh.. haha) Amil also agreed..
however when he saw that i didn't buy..

he secretly went to get it and wished me merry christmas and intend it as a christmas present..
while i was away browsing @ the books section..

*i was like so happy to receive it...* so nice loh the cross crystal
Thanks Amil.. you are being very sweet ya.. made my day! ^_^

nowadays my hearts desire are granted by God one by one..
there's this pair of shoes that caught my eye 4 a long time i reali liked my mum got it 4 me exactly the same one *of cos i didn't tell her *

then there's this gift exchange in cellgroup on fri.. i received this magnectic bookmarks which i been eyeing since a long time too..

then today Desmond invited me out with his frenz had another gift exchanged i received some skin care products..

and also my prayer 4 the breakthru in my life.. Thank God thatHe is restoring my world..
i believe before 2009..
l my hearts wishes will ALL come true..*my guardian Angel is working ya*
*tks tks.. appreciate you so much*

** i'm so excited.. can't wait 4 all these things before the whole year with a whole new life..

can u sense my joy..

^_^

*i'm so thankful 4 all these events*



oh ya tomorrow.. i got 2 more fren
1. my mum
2. xiao ming
and i just came back from outside(4.48am)..
so tired but can't wait to go Jw service..

**Father in heaven.. i believe that my mum will receive you tomorrow!
by faith i believe..

HOly Spirit.. over the ball to you..

my life is in your hand..




All i want 4 christmas is=> YOU!! *wish granted!!*

today's truth..

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, and it keeps no record of wrongs." 1 Corinthians 13: 4-5 (NIV)


PS: Love isn't about how old you are, or the length of time you've shared together. Its the spiritual connection between two souls, no matter the distance.

i'm waitng 4 Right things to happen..

well.. there's this guy whom i got to know recently .. *during asia conference 19/12/08*




justin 22 year old

malaysian, tall build 188cm

90kg.. cute looking





i got to know him thru one of my friend in our neighbourhood...there's this S11 coffee shop near the mrt station ...

usually i would hang around there to chat with all the people at the coffee shop.. i'm pretty well known there loh. cos whenever i'm there the atmosphere gets lifted up.. well..
(that's wat they commented ^_^ *giggle*)

he would offer to send me back*cos it would be like 12++am*..
and we would have
long conversation for couple of hours.. (i'm a chatterbox*heh*)
we chat about my church- city harvest church!
cos he's a malaysian and came to s'pore to work..
can't stop promoting wat a great church i belonged to..
and also the vision and dreams i have from God!

>>i'm believing that yishun revival would birthforth cos all my family are all staying here and

after i got to know justin, he has been a great help to me to intro me to all his pals and there are all residenting here!

>>i can see that there's open door to touch the lives of these within my circle of influence...

Guess wat??
[before asia conference God has already spoken to me that he would use me to bring the Gospel to my neighbourhood. now i'm walking in this pathway.. and justin is lending me his hand.. encouraging me and movitating me all the way..]

i thank GOD that i can have the chance to do his work cos i noe that it's not becos im wise or come from a good background.. have good education.. or come from well-to-do family.

but the word says that :

"He use the foolish things of the world to shame the wise.." __ me


though he's a believer but have not been to church 4 a long time
(due to work commitment) but i can see that he has never backslided from God
we have been doing a great job reaching out to others..
we sow words of encouragements into theit lives..
and very sweet towads me.. other than sending me back home.. he wakes me up every day and send me to work..

very caring guy also..when i was sick he came to my place and bought me food.. always checking on how am i..

very bubbly.. he could reali get along with my friends and family members..

i think that he has fallen in love with me.. *and i'm touched by all that he's done within this short period of time*

Hold on!
my female cell leader ask me to keep my option open.. she said
>> i should reserve my emotion and not be swayed cos somebody is after you..
>>cos i haven reali get to know him..
>>and i don't wanna end up marrying the wrong guy..
>>cos i should allow enough time to get to know a guy before i make the decision..
>>since he's not rooted in church.. Spiritual level not strong..
Another male cell leader just ask me to go ahead with my heart..

is there an other option??
actually there are alot of guys in my life that liked me however they are not Godly or not proactive so i didnt include them in my list..

when i get to know justin we spoke our hearts out and he got the chance to get know my past.. yet he is very accepting.. but wat's holding me back is that he's younger than me and that he's not yet rooted in church and that being with him means that i would have to embrace another culture~ cos he come from another background!

i'm amazed that all these are happening so fast that i can't catch up with the pace..
it's always great to fall in love but i dun wanna get attached becos i'm touched..
i believe if there's opputunity guys can always touch your heart..
i wanna fallin love cos i reali love the person for who he is!
i believe no matter how strong a relationship could be, it must be able to go through trials..
so i'm reali usins my mind not reali my heart..
i wanna fall in love LOGICALLY!!
cos when your heart takes over,
no matter how wise a person could be,
would also make silly decision...
* i dun wanna make the impulse decision*

i'm wondering

*seriously*

should i be with him??

or God you have another plan 4 me?

should i Choose to fall in love with him?

or should i wait..

is there another option

another route?





*Of cos i hope that my relationship would be God given and that i believe that he muz also embrace the same values and flowing in the same spirit and fuiling the vision and dreams of this church..*




i'm not looking at looks but i wanna be open that God you would send the Right guy to my life not onli be mature & Godly but also be spiritual & filled with Big dreams and wanna do great works 4 His kingdom and accept me 4 who i am within. able to embrace my past and present and future.. he must be able to be rooted in city harvest so that i can be a helper to my man to help him fuifill his destiny and dreams to be a great leader
putting your kingdom 1st in everything!!

i believe that the earthly ministry=spiritual ministry!

*you will not give us a job that has no time to serve you*

* God i pray that you will give the Right guy the

opptunity and Courage to ask for my hand
from my leader family and myself!*

*the season to reap*




i believe this christmas is the period 4 the harvest before 2009

30 souls this year!!!!
( my entire family plus my circle of influence)

*And my God can do exceedingly abundently above all that we could even think or imagine*

before my birthday, i had a revelation that
God will restore my world in 6 days and
And GOD is creating space in my life to contain all he has intended!
-my family.. my friends.. my career..my ministry..my relationship!

I can see God has opened the door waiting 4 me to walk in!!
all these are my hearts prayer since the period in SOT!!

whatever happen in my life is not up to my control
but His will and His plan and that
just need to pray=trust him & "let it happen" !!!


can't wait to step into 2009 a whole new year..


when u delight in the Lordhe'll give you the desires of your heart!
whatever you want in LIFE u need to seize it!
when God created the world he didn't dominate the world for Adam- the Ist created human.
**God has given you the power to create Your destiny!!!*

*sucess belongs to those that seize the day!

in HIs kingdom is only YES and AMEN!



Sucess belongs to those who seize the day!

*i'm waiting but time and tide waits 4 no man* ^_^

actions always overrides the message of our words

December 16
1 John 3

Those who say they love God must manifest that love by loving others.

>>The final test of Christian character is action, not words. It is not what you say that determines your life message, but what you do. John writes: "Let us not love in word or in tongue, but in deed and in truth" (v. 18). Consistency is one of the great challenges of the Christian walk.

Whenever our actions do not match our words, the message of our actions always overrides the message of our words.

Therein lies the basis for one of the most consistent complaints against Christianity over the ages: hypocrisy.

My thoughts:

well its true that sometimes

its always to kept on confessing wat is right

prob we could even give good advices to others.

even as a believer, to consistently live out

wat is required of us remains a challenge.

but i believe that he would send u a paraketoes-Helper.

when your soul and spirit is down, there'll still be Constance

infilling of comforts, love joy peace into the heart..

everythings is still in place!!

Happy moments,praise God.

Difficult moments,

seek God.

Quiet moments,

worship God.

Painful moments,trust God.

Every moment,thank God.

*i'll be still and know that you are GOD~*

WOW..Ginna had dinner with Charles!

Friday(12/12/08)- went to a birthday celebration loh..
then i met this charles & keiths key personnel
and of coe the boss himself

- charles-
34, Hong konger, fair
i can say he's a pretty nice guy with no airs.
easy going.. and most importantly he's SINGLE!!
*to all gal out there he's a good catch ya*

to: justin

today.. i was joking with justin to ask him to come tanjiong pager station @ 10pm to fetch me back home_ yishun(we stay in the same estate)

when i wanted to go back..
so surprice to see you there loh..
u ah very bo liao.. ask you come u reali come all the way from yishun..
u got nothing better to do huh..
anyway u are being very sweet ya.. everyday be my alarm clock that wakes me up every 5min since 8am..


Thank God 4 a friend like you!!
pls go and pray 4 a breakthru that u can to come church on sunday ya.. and cellgroup!!

when u delight in the Lord
he'll give you the desires of your heart!

whatever you want in LIFE u need to seize it!

when God created the world he didn't dominate the world for Adam- the Ist created human.

**God has given you the power to create tour destiny!!!**
sucess belongs to those that seize the day!

in HIs kingdom is only YES and AMEN!

~I'LL CYA SOON...~ ^_^

** word in season 4 the heart **

well.. GOD is good.. always send the rhema word to me via people..

fiona says:
>it is important to let ur cgl noe
>this sounds like a better choice
>but its nice when u got e directions.

>u can go along with it without any w
>n trust me.. tat feelings awesome.no worries.
>rather than u go ahead urself, doubtful of it, or even making a mess out of it.

>there's always GRACE in accountability..

atomginna>> fav quote:

"my mind knows what i should do but my heart direct my ways!"

alright i'll update you agian sweetie.. thks ya for your words..

*kisses & hugs*

~NOW IS THE TIME~

Delirious?

PRESENTING TO YOU THE BEST OF SONGS!!

NOW IS THE TIME!!!!!
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>>>>>>http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gAjEklCbSSM&feature=related<<


how i wish wish i could enjoy a bit more of my life- to do the things that i reali wanna do but i realise i can't!! i suddendly feel that there's alot things yet to be done!! 2008 is coming to an end! 2009 is just around the corner!! i need to be more hardworking more dilligent! more vigillant! be filled with vigour! living Victoriously!!

The most challenging part of life

=> " MAKE DECISION "

>> ITS THE MARK OF MATURITY!!

IT IS MOST PAINFUL TO MAKE DECISION

but i believing making decision is essential
its equal to making commited.
the most important decision that one can make >> stop living 4 yourself!
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WAT MATTERS IN LIFE

its not about my needs
its not about my problems
its not about my happiness
its not about my sadness
its not about me myself and i.




Life i CHOOSE
i will not regret
i will rejoice
cos i know its the way that has been plan..

wow.. how exciting..
i do not how wat lies ahead but i believe
i will live in confidence daily
every hour
every min
every sec
ever millisec

TIME is important!!
DUN waste TIme!
INVEST it!


Every moment is precious
>> the air that i breath would be my reminded.
> reminding me that all my life the grace of GOD has never leave me.
> my life is of VALUE
>my life has been bought with a PRICE!


Happiness= stop living 4 urself


true JOY>> give your life to love EVERYONE!

From today on..
i promise to be a different me..
i will no longer be myself
i will no longer be the old me..
i will not obey my desires...
ad yet i will say "YES"
i will be different
i will step out
i will walk the route that most will not
the narrow way..
which is difficult and yet there is abundance of joy
with Holy Spirit holding me side by side..

*though i walk through the valley of shadow of death I WILL FEAR NOT!*

HERE I AM SEND ME!!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q9e5PVLbS-A&feature=related

OUR GOD REIGNS_

*in everything- the whole world belongs to him anyway!*

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bLAbXvFKRLQ&feature=related

wonderful sun romantic with 2+1?

Wow.. sun service went with justine’s fren- alex( just got to know him the day b4 lo)
it was fantastic- since he was a malaysian so i got an interpretational headset 4 him ya!

but was late for service however cell group
manage to keep 2 seats for us though- centre seats in front of the stage!! *tks tks*

afterwhich went to look 4 justin @ funan IT mall..

travel our way up by the foot 4 dinner@ bugis>> my fav hangout place!!

went all the way to suntec city to dedicate songs 4 everyone in town
>> Better in time + PLS dun stop the music!!

so romantic lo at the fountain with all the water splashing plus the laser bean!! with justin- lao gong + alex- lao po = one lovely couple.
*me extra lo.. hee*
Then justine was very gentleman to carry my bag throughout the night. *tks tks*
no wonder your dear lao po can't resist ur charisma- so attach to u!! lol

TO my dear- jesus:

had a great time today.. tks 4 bringing all these fun people in my life ya..
*u guys are as precious** as the air that i breathe- can't live a day without ur presence!!*
cos i am reali making friends all over the place lo. one week itself i can make easily 5 friends. i'm serious!! nowadays i am bumping into people i have not seen for years, months or days or haven reali met b4. we just happen chat and then to exchange contacts loh..

>>>amazing right!!

December 7
1 Peter 2

*my word of the day is always in line with the event of the day*

>Spiritual sacrifice and personal holiness should be the Christian response to trials.



TO all the people who just gotta know me-
Indeed God reali love you who is special so he wanna spice up ur life by intro u to a one & onli lovablabe bubbly irristable sweetie wonderful outgoing cheerful amazing cool & hip looking Ginna aka jolin* with a cherry on top*

*well.. i believe that nothing in this world exist 4 no reason!*
( ALL things happen 4 a purpose)

~ Do keep ur life posted to small & mighty AtomGinna's life ya ~ tks tks ^_^

GOD's in control~ yeah!

1 Thessalonians 5:18
"No matter what happens, always be thankful, for this is God's will for you who belong to Christ Jesus."


As i was sharing with u guys, i was having a bad week.. but it's parts and parcel ( ups & down) of

L

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F

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so i am okay already.. then well your day is not so smooth then God would use the people around to give ya encouragement and concern

like my frenz > the end of the asia conference..

>and ms joanna Tan! (my Lao pan)

nevertheless.. it is always nesscessary to go thru all these things ya

Anyway this is this week's cellgp message.. got it in advance!

1) lift up our eyes from ourselves
2) lift up our eyes from being cast down
3)lift up our eyes in the way we look at ppl

follow by 3 things about being the witness for God

1. God called everyone to witness Him to the world
2. God's power is available to everyone
3. step out in faith


December 4James 4
>>While selfishness produces conflict, humility produces submission to God.

Selfishness is the foundation for all conflict.

When two hearts want different things - and neither is willing to sacrifice for the sake of the other - conflict arises.

Selfishness is the cause of war, crime, and interpersonal conflict.

By looking out for ourselves, we think we can get what we want from life. In contrast, the Lord teaches us that humility, not selfishness, results in satisfaction in life.

Promote yourself, and wars and conflict result.

Even God is against you (v. 6).
But live in humility and wars and conflict cease, assuming all parties participate. And the Lord will lift you up.

*very in line with my word 4 the day!* Cool..

Hallelujah~ tomorrow >05/12/12 cell group at linda's place(sembawang)
i got a new friend wor~ justine! (praise God) ^_^ * so happy*

i think its the rhema word 4 him!! (Holy Spirit, i pray u come and impact him)

this week's service i got Yew huat to come 4 sat expo svc also.. amen!

(should i go 4 sun svc??)

>>NOW FAITH IS THE SUBSTANCE OF THE THINGS HOPED 4

EVIDENCE OF THE THINGS UNSEEN!<<

*thank u Jesus 4 all that is happening in my life*

All Glory & Praises to YOU!! *mucks*

my rhema..lalala ^_^

This is my Rhema ( so i'm blogging it so that i will rem that word in season 4 me)

The conversation goes..

atomgal_star@yahoo.com.sg says:
if u know mi.. i can't keep anything to myself.. lol.
hahah.. that's me lo..
i happy
sad
angry
joyful..
:
all is written on all..
:
over
every where..
i'll let the people around me know how i feel.. (i'm just being me okay!!)
atomgal_star@yahoo.com.sg says:
sometimes too over aldready..

The end of Asia Conference 08 is just the beginning of Asia's revival~! says:
That is good~!
yea agree to that

atomgal_star@yahoo.com.sg says:
too expressive..
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ooops..

The end of Asia Conference 08 is just the beginning of Asia's revival~! says:

balance is the key overly might backfire at time

The end of Asia Conference 08 is just the beginning of Asia's revival~! says:

include the season to show the vibrant and excited side and the season to show the quiet side.. no worries im not saying u i just say a a general

so that require wisdom~~~ lol

atomgal_star@yahoo.com.sg says:
i confirm this is the word 4 me in season.. cos my leader was speaking to me also.. that i too over with people..

(wow..how amazing how God use people to get across his words)
*okay GOD i'm hearing*

The end of Asia Conference 08 is just the beginning of Asia's revival~! says:
"i believe one can be who u are without topple the balance.

everyone know u

and like u as who u are. "

atomginna says:"amen to that!!"

just that u gave me feeling u r a gal that is can be pretty excited when speaking till can blar out quite alot of stuffs which i find it to be interesting as in very vocal and vibrant.

so for that day ok nothing over no worries.^_^

lol outspoken, friendly, excited, vibrant have always been will always be CHC culture! that for sure!

but of cos.. there is season for everything

some ppl can take it some ppl can't, sometime those usually can take it might not be able, sometime those usually can't take it suddenly become can...

The end of Asia Conference 08 is just the beginning of Asia's revival~! says:
u can do it de~!

amen!!

The end of Asia Conference 08 is just the beginning of Asia's revival~! says:
lol.. actually ya kinda cute gal too so i think that help too.. lol but dun misuse that too much.. LOL

AtomGinna says:"*well.. i'm Ke Ai cos God created me to be like that loh*"



*and we chatted online till 1 plus only to find out that*


The end of Asia Conference 08 is just the beginning of Asia's revival~! says:
630am ( gotta wake up)

oh no like that next day sure panda eye loh>> nvm!

but not enough zzz loh
*pai seh* : P

*felt so bad 4 being so chatty i was going on and on and on with my typing without noticing the time .. oops! here i go.. too over ald~

(okay GOD i noe i think i need to be more sensitive to others)*


>>To: The end of Asia Conference 08 is just the beginning of Asia's revival~!

>by the way thank God 4 your words of encouragement and lifting me up with ur words of wisdom

>anyway thank man.. its a good fellowship on the msn.


>^_^ thanks for intro me to this gesture *so cute* make my day!! Hee~

~ since its was late already~

The end of Asia Conference 08 is just the beginning of Asia's revival~! says:
haha nite

~ That's all folks~

*good nite & sweet dreams ya* ^_^

today.. not my day!

Haiz~
After beening sick for a whole week then came back to office feeling so defeated. (which was all so totally so different before Asia Conference where everything is so perfect!)already defeated for last for being so sick. only to discover that i have been throughly hit by my sickness.. my job.. the peoplemy boss was qning me wat happen??
to make it worst my leader also was discipling me lo.. hmmm.


I so sad lo *sob sob* .. can't u feel my heart and my mind is not within my Spirit control already).. i'm so down down down.. can't see the pit!! Hais~ ( i'm lost in the world)

why everything must come out all one shot huh??

HELLO.. ANYBODY CAN ANSWER ME??

afterwhich i went to check my email then foung out that this was the Word of the day..

i think its God's answer to me.>>



December 3James 3
[Through the use of metaphors, James warns us about the tongue. There is nothing good or bad, right or wrong about a tongue; it is simply a few ounces of muscle. But the tongue articulates the contents of the heart. If a flask full of acid is bumped, acid will spill out. If a flask full of water is bumped, only water will spill out. Water will never spill out of a flask of acid, and acid will never spill out of a flask of water. In that sense, the tongue merely reveals the heart. Let the heart be bumped, and the tongue will reveal what is in the heart. In controlling the tongue, you must control the heart. If you want to change the words of the tongue, you must change the condition of the heart. ]

i think its amazing like how God can use the most natural circumstances in life to speak to us.. using people to give you words of encouragement.
sometime when you need help u will fing that no one is there for you* GOd are you calling me to draw nearer to you*

Here's a song by DELUDGE ck out in youtube type > worshipping you!

*love it to the MAX*

i live to worship you..

"Here i am worshipping you..
with all i am
worshipping you
bowing down in spirit and truth
with all i am
worshipping you"

i'm gonna worship 4ever
i'm gonna worship you x 4


in spite of all that happens..
>> God i still want you to know that i love you more than all these things and that i will not let my circumstance influence me.

when your world tumble down- your closest kin may not be there 4 you, your best of friend may not be avail.and things will looks x 10 worst and that people may even add fuel to your problems..

Thank GOd i KNOW U!!

The God i KNOW..

never fails..

never leave me..

always my very present help especially in times of needs..

your Words of comfort never fades..

Heaven and earth will fade away but your words will never fade away.

GOd u said that u will use me to bring your visions to come to pass and that i believe the my victory is already here!

>> now FAITH Is the substance of the things hope for.. proof of the things Unseen!!


*i noe i'm still very precious in your sight and that you love me*


Today i'm leaving all my troubles behind..i'm letting go i'll follow line..i holding on with all of my life~~
Today.. Today...

^_^ *feeling better* ^_^